With the passing of Ted Kennedy and his memorial service, I was reminded of all those that departed from my family. I lost my grandparents when I was 10, my mother when I was 22, and most recently, my wife of 29 years when I was 55. I think of them as often as I can and I’ve noticed something interesting. The more I visualize them as they were when they were alive, the more I feel they are close to me and in my presence. Mind you, I am not overly religious but I do believe in a God. I am also not particularly into spirits, ghosts, ESP, or reincarnation. But I do not fully understand life and death and all it’s implications.
Can you remember the second you were conceived? How about the moment of birth? I have pictures and movies of my daughter being born, but she can’t remember much until she was three or four. The same for myself and my family members. Our soul or consciousness entered at the moment of conception and yet we don’t know where that actually came from nor can remember when it occurred. So when considering death, isn’t it natural to assume we move forward into another realm of existence, perhaps parallel to the one we came from? I think there are other dimensional universes where we transition to after we pass on and that we are somehow still connected to all those that were important to us in life. We don’t have to see those spirits to know they are with us. We merely have to think.
Ever wonder why we dream? Often times the events seem so real. Also, I have dreamt about passed family members and could have sworn they were alive. Perhaps that’s one of their ways of keeping in touch, at least I would like to think so. I can’t imagine what other purpose a dream might serve, other than allowing us to enter an other “world” or “plane of existence.” I have been attempting to figure out what life is and what death might be as the years add up. If my hypothesis is correct, then we never lose our loved one, they are always around or at least in our thoughts. If they are brought back to use as we think about them, then we have an obligation to think about them more often and relive their better moments.
This is best done in meditation or at a quiet restful moment when one can truly give them our utmost attention. Perhaps before you go to sleep or any other relaxing situation. It’s important to not just visualize, but to hear them, smell them, and even try to touch them in your mind’s eye. The more you can once again experience their past connections to you, the better chance they have of becoming alive again. You may think it is a foolish waste of time, but if I am right, then isn’t it wonderful to know that they are reborn every time you think of them? But if I am wrong, then you still get to relive a special time and place with that person and those memories are priceless and irreplaceable. Either way, I know that I always feel better and the idea that I might be reconnecting is always worth the time and effort. They were worth it in life and even more so in their passing.
Jeffrey Hauser was a sales consultant for the Bell System Yellow Pages for nearly 25 years. He graduated from Pratt Institute with a BFA in Advertising and has a Master’s Degree in teaching. He had his own advertising agency in Scottsdale, Arizona and ran a consulting and design firm, ABC Advertising. He authored a book about his directory years, “Inside the Yellow Pages” which can be seen at his website, http://www.poweradbook.com and he is officially retired.